Almost 50, I Want to Get Pregnant
As I checked out a tall, slim man in his thirties with salt and pepper hair at a Greenwich Village party, a lady astrologist a couple of years older than moi looked my way and said, When we get to this age, we lose interest in men.
I assume she believed I would agree with her reading of the situation, but I, a divorced, almost forty-nine-year old Jewish female from New York City, still have a seventy-year-old aunt who dates.
I also contemplated how we women peak
sexually in our forties, but I am one year away from, gulp, fifty.
And the thing is, I want to be pregnant again.
I already have an amazing twenty-three-year-old son, but I want a repeat performance.
Yes; even as most women my age throw in the hormonal towel, I find myself looking at guys much the way Samantha would in Sex In The City, sizing up men between 25 and 45 at the supermarket, the mall, the ballgame.
Only I'm not looking for potential lovers, I'm looking for a baby daddy.
Blue eyes or brown, balding or Kennedy-esque — I try to gaze right through their skin to see their very DNA.
My friends think I am off my rocker, I should enjoy the empty nest and not make a syndrome out of it.
They're in the been-there/done-that phase, and those still interested in men go for the immediate gratification relationships and have no desire for long-term proposals.
Not one friend will admit maybe my pregnancy desires might be something she feels, too.
This Pregnancy Over 40 story was found on NYtimes.com
Read more: I'm Almost 50 and I Want to Get Pregnant - Am I The Only One?
Originally posted on September 30th, 2010.
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I have met the love of my life.
We both want a baby. I am 49, he is 55.
Some people think I am nuts, others say "go for it, if you can"!
Why not?
If we feel that we can do it, why not?
I have been taking care of Babies all my life & do now. Again...why not?
I am 48, my partner 51. No children between us. We both want a baby and feel strongly we would make wonderful parents. The problem is I'm post menopausal. No periods in 6 years.
We are both active individuals...
Has anyone out there gone thru a similar situation with a successful
outcome?
I met a lovely man he is 50 and i am 47. My daughter is 15 & his daughter is 16 years of age. We would like to have a baby boy hopefully but a girl is ok too. My friends encourage me for i am still healthy. I think it would be wonderful for us. For any couples like us who want to have a baby, why not! It's all for love and a baby would make our life so complete.
I gave birth to a beautiful baby at age 47 (donor eggs). I met my husband at age 44 (he's 45 now). I had a relatively easy pregnancy and healthy full-term birth. We've decided to try for another this July. It's not too late! Stay positive, do yoga, acupuncture and eat right.
I'm over-the-moon about being a mom and feel blessed and energized by it all. Sure, it can be exhausting, but it was worth the wait. Go for it!
Can a doctor tell a woman she is too old for donor eggs to carry a baby? I am 47. I am sure.. there are places we can go for this if we have to. Can we like by 5 years about our age? Thanks
The oldest woman to carry a baby by donor eggs has been 70 years old, so barring other medical reasons, 47 doesn't sound too old.
Julia Indichova offers wonderful support off her website including phone support circles. Many have conceived despite the odds