You are not alone in wanting a child at 45! I am 44. Will be 45 in December. I just today got a positive pregnancy test. We were trying for a little over a year and I thought the factory was shutting down... I had my last child (my 5th) at 42.
I am a graduate of this board too- 10-04 with my 3rd son. We got quite a shock when I came up preggers Saturday, we sure weren't expecting that! I am cautiously optimistic, but the truth is your rate of miscarriage is just higher as you age. I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks in 8/03 and I guess that really teaches you nothing is promised in this life but God's love. Your pregnant pal at 44 - Elizabeth
I assisted a woman this summer that was 45 years old, g6p4 ages 24, 13, 9, 6yo. 1st forceps breech, 2nd C/s for active HSV, 3rd induced vbac, 4-sab, 5-vbac at home (got tired of docs and hospitals looking for problems) 6-sab, 7 6mo after sab. very supportive and same husband with last 3 children . Excellent diet.
Living 40 miles from the closest hospital. She had her 1st 2 visits at the local clinic with FP docs, who strongly recommended hospital birth due to age and distance to hospital and refused referral for home birth.
She and her family were well aware of her risk factors, They also were aware of the risks of going to the hospital for routine birth with her "risk" factors. she used a lot of herbs throughout, chiropractic care for her back, she was in a lot a back pain at the end. She was totally receptive to transferring to hospital/docs at the earliest signs of problems. s
She gained the most she had of all pregnancies, and felt her years at the end of pregnancy. 9 hours latent, 4 hours active, 20 minutes pushing. 17min 3rd followed by 450-500cc bldg. (I saw my partner inadvertently put a lot of tension on the cord right after birth which probably may have contributed.) Mom and babe are great!
My oldest mom was 46 when she gave birth to her sixth child. She was a nice Mormon woman, had a pretty decent diet, no major health problems other than being over weight. It seemed like her biggest problem was feeling overwhelmed with having yet another child somewhat unexpectedly. Her pregnancy was uncomplicated, and she gave birth at home without any problems.
Another mom I cared for, who is a friend of mine, was 45 when she gave birth to number 6 also. She had a number of SAB's prior to her last pregnancy, with no history of earlier SAB's. Her husband had had a vasectomy which had been reversed as they decided they wanted one more baby! The SAB's began occurring after the reversal, and it took about 3 years before she was able to conceive and carry to term. She felt pretty tired and run down in the last pregnancy, and mostly scared of losing the baby, but the birth and postpartum was uncomplicated.
You Can Get Pregnant in Your 40's